12 things to do when you encounter criticism

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Criticism is one of the things that are faced by everyone in different forms. There are always a cluster of people who don’t appreciate your work but get jealous of whatever you do. These people deny your work and try to lower your energy by giving negative comments.

But there are also those people available to you who criticize you for your betterment and improvement. They encourage you by positive criticism to work more in a better way. Because their criticism make us to realize our mistakes. We are not subject master in everything or perfect in specific thing. Their criticism realize us this thing that we are not perfect and can make errors.

Here are 12 things to do when you encounter criticism;

  1. Try to bear critics.
  2. Accept all critics, whether it is negative or positive.
  3. Think about all points.
  4. Understand the point of criticism.
  5. Admit honestly that what you are lacking and where you need a room for improvement.
  6. Avoid making critics as your personal issue. Don’t take criticism to your heart.
  7. Judge yourself in pool of critics.
  8. Realize yourself that you are doing something that is affecting someone to react.
  9. Follow valuable critic, don’t ignore it.
  10. Remember that you are surrounded by both enemies and friends, who are always there to criticize you.
  11. Say thank you to all those who criticize you.
  12. Move ahead and try to fix it.Don’t stop yourself after criticism.

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Mind and Body Connection

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Mind and body have a close relationship with each other.This  link influence the health and quality of life.Mental attitude affects the physical attitude.And physical actions have also a great impact on mental state.Your way of thing and acting both effects mind and body.

Awareness:

When you are aware about your mind and body connection, you can improve your life. Because then you know about the illness in your mind and the disease in your body.And find the way to cure both.If you cure   mind illness then you can easily cure your body disease.It is because your mental attitude can help you to  remove your physical pain, if you are thinking positively about the pain.

Be aware about the energy flowing in between both mind and body.Scan Your mind and body and try to learn their incoming and outgoing messages.

Sensations:

Brain make sense of simulations which are physical.Notice that whether your sensations are pleasant one or unpleasant.Are these sensations leaving positive impact on your, or discomforting you.For example listening of any musical instrument voice, making you comfortable or tiring your mind and body both.

Try to control negative stimulation’s that effects mind and body negatively.And follow the sensations until they fades.

Exercise:

Take a deep breath and close your eyes.Hear what is the message receiving your mind and body both from each other?.

 

Are you really in love with your job?

Are you really in love with your job?Since childhood we see a lot of dreams. At that time when someone asked us what we want to become and we replied “to be a doctor, engineer, lawyer, teacher or whatever”.But does everyone of us become what we want to be in our childhood?

A fact that every wish cannot be granted in a same way, in which we want.

In childhood we want to become this and that but we didn’t know at that time that we can only do the things which we are made for to do.

In our life we make many compromises because of various circumstances we face. Which in some cases we don’t want to make but still makes against our wish in order to survive. Compromise sometimes throw us in state of happiness and doesn’t allow us to enjoy our life.

Lets suppose a salesman who want to become a doctor in his childhood, but his life circumstances doesn’t allow him to become a doctor and he started working as a salesman. He blames and complains about life difficulties a lot and do his work just to feed himself and family.But he can enjoy his life if he stops complaining about his work and take interest in it. To become a doctor can be his wish but not his interest and being a salesman is his compromise, but he is not happy with a work he is doing to fulfill his needs. 

Life doesn’t ends at one point.

Think that salesman who can get more from his life.If he tries to get interest in his work and enjoy whatever he is doing. for example developing interest in talking with customers  can give him pleasure and make him to work more productively. And at the same point he can think that if he was a doctor then he also talk to his patients.He then can polish his salesmanship skills and get more of it and also get peace and balance in his life while enjoying his work.

Stop at a moment then move ahead!

If you are not interested in what you want to do, then stop at a moment. Take a deep breath and then move ahead for  your passion, for your interest, and for which you feel pleasure while doing.

Ask yourself what you are doing right now is your wish, your need, your interest, all or none? You can share with us too!

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5 ways to make yourself DoubtLess

5 ways to make yourself DoubtLess

Doubt is your mental state which hangs you in between; what if/ whether. Sure/unsure. You are in belief/ disbelief, questioned state. You are in fear to choose. It is like a true and false. With your doubtful mind you cannot judge anything efficiently and effectively.  Doubt throws you in a basket of anxiety, make you embarrass and worthless and restricts your creativity, judging and decision power.

However being doubtless mean free of doubt. In state of certain surety. You have a believe that it can be true or is absolutely right. In certain case you are uncertain but very less that doesn’t matter a lot. To be doubtless is important in taking big steps. If you are free from any doubt then it means you are more confident about yourself.

Here are few ways to be doubtless.

1. Define your doubts to yourself;

When you are aware about your doubts. Then define them clearly to yourself with every minute detail. Make a sense what make you to be a doubtful in certain condition. For example you are into starting a business but you have so many doubts in starting, first you think you don’t have the guts to do this thing, you are uncertain about business idea, you are not hiring a certain person because you have a doubt on him too, etc. Now you have defined your doubts then work on them to get rid of them.

2. Believe on yourself;

For being doubtless, you should have to get a certain degree of believe on yourself. You know very well what can make you powerful (i.e. belief). When you are aware of yourself, you believe on yourself more. You know what make you strengthen and what make you weak. If you have too much doubt on yourself, you don’t bother to believe yourself; then no one can believe on you too. So believe first on yourself and then on whatever you do.

3. Take challenges and move ahead;

Everyday life itself is a challenging. But good thing is that how you make yourself compatible with these challenges without any doubt. You are in a state whether you can win or if you lose i.e. doubting yourself. So don’t concentrate on whether or if. Be a risk taker, take a challenge, tackle with a doubtful risk and move ahead.

4. Answer yourself;

Whatever you do in your life, wherever you are moving in your life you are answerable to yourself first. If you are moving on with some doubts then answer all the questions lying in your head first. Answer all the possibilities of that which questioned what if or whether. Now you have all the answers, choose from them which are doubtless and can make things possible for you.

5. Resist disruptions;

One of the reasons having so many doubts is distractions surrounding around you and inside you. These can be in form of anything or any person and inside your beliefs too. These distractions resist you to do big in life. So before they resist you, you have all to do is to resist these distractions first. Whatever you do you have to focus on the things with clarity of mind and heart without any ruin of doubts or uncertain beliefs. With clearly focused you nourish a plant of your success without any doubt and get the ripen fruit of your efforts. And all this can happen when you eliminate point of distractions.

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5 Best Things to do to make your Mind, Body and Spirit Healthy and Strong

15 Best Things to do to make your Mind, Body and Spirit Healthy and Strong

 A healthy and strong mind, body and spirit make you to live fully and leads towards a better life.

A healthy and strong body keep you away from various diseases and may bless you to live longer.

A healthy and strong mind keep you emotionally strong and bless with healthy brain

A healthy and strong Spirit keep you peacefully. You live more deeper and positive life.

Here are 5 best things to make your mind, body and spirit healthy and strong.

1. Deep breathing

Muscles and brain get more oxygen as circulation increases as a result of deep breathing. It lessens the stress in your body and make your muscles, organs and tissues strong and boosts your energy level.

2. Good Nutrition

Eating variety of foods, such as vegetables, fruits and eating regular meals with  low amount of fat, salt and sugar makes a good nutrition. Eating healthy is important for healthy lifestyle. Your body become powerful and efficient machine when you fuel it with good and healthy nutritious food.

3. Drink Plenty of Water

The human body composed of 50-75% of water. Your brain, heart, lungs, muscles and kidneys contain more than 70% of water. So drinking 8-12 glasses of water daily keep you hydrated. When you stay hydrated your performance level increases. It maintains your body temperature, lubricates your joints and remove waste from body.

 4. Good Quality Sleep

Sleep is a periodic state of mind and body. 7-9  hours sleep is considered good for healthy mind and body. Better sleep supports your brain to function healthy and efficiently as well as make you physically healthy. It protect you from various diseases and lowers your stress.

5. Regular Exercise 

Exercise improves health and fitness and overall well being. Exercise makes your muscles strong and boosts your energy. It helps in delivering efficiently nutrients and oxygen to tissues of your body. It helps in loosing weight as well as reducing the risk level of various diseases.

 

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Always Use a SMART Guideline For Setting Your Goals

Always Use a SMART Guideline For Setting Your Goals

By reading a “Smart” what you are thinking of a smart as cool, sharp, bold, intelligent or elegant?

Yes here it can be a cool, sharp, organized, bold, wise, elegant approach towards setting your goals.

But it can be more than this.

What is meant by Smart Guideline?

SMART is an acronym which you can use as a guide for setting your goals. It comprehensively define goal setting with different variations.

S– Specific, substantial, broaden

M– Measurable, meaningful, motivational

A– Attainable, action-oriented, acceptable

R– Realistic, reasonable, result-oriented, relevant

T– Time-Bound, tangible, track able

History:

This term is accredited to Peter Duker’s concept of Management by Objectives. And this term is first used by George T. Doran in November 1981 issue of Management Review. (Source: Mindtool)

Why to use:

SMART guideline helps you to clearly focus, attentive and to concentrate on your goals. As well as maximize your chances to achieve your goals. It gives you a direction to achieve your goal fast.

First step:

Write your goals.Don’t keep every goal inside your head, just start writing your goals in this way you have a clear view of your goals. And this clear picture then make you to get more fruitful use of SMART tool and strengthen your belief that what you want is possible to achieve and you can go for it.

How to use SMART guideline:

You can get now clear picture step by step to use this guideline in a following way:

> S :

-You have to be specific while setting goals to make your goals specific.

-Well-defined goals. Define everything what you want clearly.

– Write every possible answer of your questions.This involves what,why, when, which, where,who,  and how.

  • What: you want to achieve.
  • Why: you want to achieve, possible reasons, outcomes, rewards, benefits.
  • When: setting of deadlines, when you will get what you want,when you have to start working on your goals, when you have to perform specific tasks.
  • Which: requirements, resources involve, obstacles, needs, techniques, tools and tricks.
  • Who: can take part in your goals,  your role as well as role of others in getting set targets.
  • Where: you meet your goal, where you can perform your tasks, everything about location matters
  • How: you can get a certain target, a way of achieving goal.

-For example: 

  • You set a goal that you want to start a business. It can’t be your specific goal. It become specific when you say i want to start a business of selling bakery items. It can become more specific when you say that you want to sell cakes, pastries etc any specific items.It makes your goal of starting a business very specific because now you have knowledge about getting your goal with specific information.
  • Similarly if you have a goal to write a book or to lose a weight. Write clearly what about you want to write and for whom. How many pounds you want to lose in 30 days?.

> M :

– Your goal should be measurable, have some meaning and motivation which forces you towards your goal.

-You deal here with numbers, dates, and all possible and estimated figures.

-Makes your goal tangible and quantifiable.

-Like how much, how many, how far, how does it take is answer here.

-Assigning of each measurable units to your tasks.

-For Example:

( Related to above example).

  • When you have set specific goal of  starting your business now you have to deal with numbers. You set your time, cost, price, profit everything with can be defined quantity wise. Like you have to make x number of bakery items per day, y number of ingredients required, xy number of price to sell, zx number of profit etc. Thus you have to mention all tangible details for attaining your goal.
  • For book: how many number of pages or chapters you write per day, per week, per month.How much words etc.

> A :

– Your goals should be attainable, acceptable, and action oriented.

-Which sets you for some action.

-Clear and acceptable outcome.

Achievable goal with your available resources

-For example:

  • Set to a business now what step, all required inventory for bakery you have to take using your available resources(budget, skills), but  more is that are you a good at baking? Is this business is for you? Are your recipes are like-able? Where you have to set a standard of building customer relationship?Where you are selling?  i.e. if near community what you know about their choice of taste? How you promote it? What you have to offer? Your point of attraction?
  • For Book: what you know about what you are writing. Your targeted audience. Who can get benefit from it. How you publish? Will you go for self publishing or find publisher somewhere.

> R :

– You  should have relevant, logical and realistic approach towards your goal.

– Some reasonable result oriented  actions for settled goals.

– You are down to earth in your effort for what you  want to achieve.

-Don’t make to much expectations with your goals. Be realistic and work hard.

– What conditions and environment is suitable for it.

– Availability of all resources, time and information which you need for accomplishing your goals.

-For Example:

  • Be realistic in which you are going to work. It is bakery in our above example. Is it your hobby to bake? You like to stand in kitchen and do your work for a x time period?  Why you are going for this business? Mention realistic reasons with using all your possible available resources  in your present condition or circumstances.  What you are expecting from your this bakery business, all should be real with realistic outcomes in real time.
  • For Book: are you flooded with all required information for publishing your book? Make you expert, learner, warrior. Have you possess a convinceable and clear conveying message pattern for your writing to your audience to whom you are writing for?

> T :

-Time-bound, track able and tangible goals.

-Enough time is requires or less.

-Which tasks can be done in x time?

-Categorize your goals as Long term, short-term and life time goals.

-Setting of deadline for each and every task require for attaining your goal.

-For example:

  • In 2 weeks or  in a month you set all for your bakery. And in x time you prepare y amount of bakery items. z time is require for promoting your business and achieving realistic outcomes, profit etc.
  • Similar is for your book. In ___ weeks or months you done all for your book. It may be drafts, final manuscripts, publishing time, promoting book, sales etc.

Once you write all your goals and use SMART technique then you are very near to achieve your goals with possible best outcome.

 

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Good Bye 2018… Welcome 2019 !

 

 

Say Good bye 2018.

And Welcome 2019 with best wishes.

New year, New goals, new dreams, hopes, plans…

May all come true of all of us. Ameen

 

 

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9 tips to make your life different

9 tips to make your life different

1. Live without any regrets:

Your life can be different if you accept your life whatever it is and  whatever you are.This acceptance makes reduces your stress  and also opens your heart and mind to accept the life whatever it is without any regrets.You should need to accept the reality of  your life.Don’t live in any regressions,that hurts you and stops you to act in gaining what ever you want from your life.

2. Ask how instead of why:

Don’t think that why you are been put to this situation?Why you are been facing hardships?Why i am in this problem?Why this happen to me?

Just think that how you can get out of the hardships?How you can turn your lose in to profit?How you can overcome the evil forces in your life? Find the answers of how and then act accordingly.

3. Avoid negative assumptions:

Don’s assume negative things in your life, not for yourself and not even for others. Don’t judge  yourself as well as others on the basis of negative assumptions.Just look for good in yourself and ignore all the bad’s. And try to fix all the bad’s in your life first.

4. Encourage yourself and others:

Always give a dose of encouragement to yourself and to others who lose their hope.Be courageous to take bold steps in your life in order to reach at the peak of  success.If someone makes you let down, motivate yourself to move ahead and face the life.

5. Accept challenges of life:

Accept all the life challenges that it brings for you. Think that these challenges are like seasons and autumn will pass soon to bring spring of your life.So always open your heart to accept the challenges and put your effort hard to complete these challenges.

6. Stop worrying about the things that  your can not control:

Life brings many situations where those things happens that are not in our control and about that we have never thought.Don’t get worried in such type of situations. Just focus on the things that you can do and that are under your control.

7. Remember  honesty is the best policy:

Always be honest with yourself first.Then try to be honest with your family, friends and others.Do your work with honesty.Buildings whose foundations are made up of truth and honesty never fell down.

8. Avoid making your mind victim of negative forces:

Think positive about every thing even about those things that are negative, try to extract positive points from that.If you not do this your mind easily become victim of negative forces and your power to think positively fades down.

9. Find a meaningful purpose for your life:

Stop thinking on the things that you don’t want from your life.Just focus on the things that you want.Find  a clear purpose of your life, make a plan then act accordingly to get the purpose.Remember that the purpose should be meaningful that grows yourself in life and also help others.

In the end you will see there will be no regressions and no lame excuses remains in your life.

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“Mend my life!”

“Mend my life!”

Sharing a beautiful poem of MARY OLIVER.

The Journey

One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
kept shouting
their bad advice—
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
“Mend my life!”
each voice cried.
But you didn’t stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
was terrible.
It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do—
determined to save
the only life you could save.

~ Mary Oliver

Credits: Mary Oliver

10 ways to get great ideas from your brain

10 ways to get great ideas from your brain

Human brain is a treasure of ideas.In every moment new idea gives birth in our brain.But all of those ideas are not able to determine our success or to take an action on them. A lot of considerable ideas blossoms in our mind garden  but fades at the same time.

Everyone is in search of great ideas that can change their lives.So it is important to get reach at the level where your brain gives standard  ideas and then it depends on you that how you nurture and take action on those ideas.

There are 10 ways in which you can get more productive and beneficial ideas from your brain.

1. Clarity

First be clear about your problem and your ambitions.Remember that you cannot get the best possible solution to your problem without identifying the problem first.Without clarity you are like standing on the platform without knowing clear about the starting and point of your destination.If you are clear about your goals and your problems then you can easily reach at your destination of getting ideas that are relevant to your problems.

2. Practice

Practice the brain exercises which make you to get great ideas.Brainstorming is one of that practice which can give you influencing ideas.By brainstorming you can reach at the best possible solution to your problems.You can brainstorm by writing or by discussing the issue with others.

3. Concentrate

Pay concentration on your needs and demands.What you want should be clear first, in this way you can focus only on one thing properly and also you can work attentively on that. Similarly if you want to be a best writer then you should need to pay your full attention and concentration on writing.You will concentrate on the ideas more that will help you in writing.

4. Interest

Developing interest in whatever you are doing gives fruitful results.You should need to have interest in the way in the steps that help you in getting your goals.But if your work matches your interest it ensures your success. Because if you interested in getting something or reaching somewhere, you will work hard to achieve it.Your interest level also gives you relevant ideas.

5. Compare

Sometimes same solution to the same problems doesn’t works.But you can compare the past and present situation to get idea from your past experiences and to apply it in present situation in a different way, that works.

6. Accept

Accept every task as a challenge and then give your best effort to win that challenge. Don’t think your task as a problem but as a challenge.  In this way toughest of toughest task become easier to complete.

7. Explain

Explain your problems or challenges. If you are clear about them you can then easily explain and evaluate them. Explaining and evaluating surrounding solution to the problems is vital to  get out of the every situation.Explain yourself what you want to explore more ideas according to it.

8. Conscious

Sometimes we spend days and nights in thinking about getting out of the situation but  get nothing.But suddenly idea strikes in our mind and we become able to take an action on that.By keeping eyes on your goals every time and giving yourself positive affirmations makes you to get whatever you want.

9. Live

Try to live differently as compared to ordinary days.You will get the new experiences by doing so.It will broadens your vision and open the new avenues to get out more from your brain.

10. Work

Whenever any idea hit the ground of your mind, write it at the same time.For this keep pen and paper with you or write it in any digital format. When you write it then find the best way to implement that idea in a best manner to get maximum output.Finally start doing work on your idea, with your full potential  and effort. Rest will become the history.

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47 Positive Statements Repeat Yourself Everyday To Bring Positive Change in your life

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Affirmations are positive statements that you visualize and believe in and that helps you to overcome your negative thoughts.These statements boosts your energy to do every thing and make you more confident about yourself and your every action.

Repeating positive statements  everyday changes the way of your thinking and feeling.And you become able to defeat the negative beliefs about yourself.You start believing on yourself more and make smart choices that ensures your success.You become more capable to complete every task without worrying and hesitation.

Repeat these positive statements to yourself in every morning or on every night, when you need it.

  1. I myself a great blessing  in the world.
  2. I can do every thing.
  3. I have a courage to face every situation.
  4. I can take risks.
  5. I can turn my loss in to profit.
  6. I am born to win.
  7. I can turn my failure into victory.
  8. I trust on my abilities.
  9. I can make right and smart choices.
  10. I can change the world.
  11. I can get good grades in every exam of my life.
  12. I can prove myself.
  13. I am the CEO of my own life.
  14. I am more wealthy and healthy
  15. I am grateful for every thing.
  16. I am able  to change someone’s life.
  17. I can make more friends.
  18. I can control my anger.
  19. I can forgive others.
  20. I can admit my every mistake.
  21. I never give up.
  22. I find inner peace inside me.
  23. I think positively.
  24. I can overcome my negative thoughts.
  25. I can turn hatred into love.
  26. I can extract great pleasure from little things.
  27. I am happy with my life.
  28. I am confident about my every action.
  29. I can speak truth.
  30. I can speak in front of tons of people.
  31. I am unique with my  abilities.
  32. I can utilize my energy and time positively.
  33. I am comfortable with everyone.
  34. I follow my dreams.
  35. I accept myself whatever, who ever i am.
  36. I can bear criticism.
  37. I can achieve my every goal.
  38. I am excited about my every day.
  39. I am determined about my goals.
  40. I can give more.
  41. I enjoy my every moment.
  42. I can be a role model.
  43. I can break down every barrier and hurdle in my way.
  44. I am successful.
  45. I am the leader of my inner self.
  46. I never hate, i love everyone.
  47. Everything is possible for me.

 

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You have only one life

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All of us come to this earth soon will go back. In this world we are blessed with one life. What we do is all to do in only this one life. It will ends soon on its time. What we do in this life soon become our past. It is not important that life ends soon, important is that how you live it.

What we achieve and what we lose in this one life all depends  on our way of leading our lives. Our attitude and believe make us to hit the rock in our life or to crush and wound ourselves under the rock. To live and enjoy life to the fullest, we should need to make our attitude and believe positive towards life.

When we open our arms to receive our life all smiles, sadness wholeheartedly, then we can live our life to the fullest and enjoy every moment of it.To make our life story enjoyable we have to work on it, we have to believe on our self, we have to take risks, we have to make our self proud for our life.

Take a time from your busy schedule and think for a moment how you are spending your life?Are you wasting your life? Or spending it in hating, regretting, questioning, blaming or complaining?

If you are spending your life in this way then stop immediately, stop blaming and complaining, forgive others and forget all negatives, don’t regret and start smiling and act of gratitude and kindness even for a tiny things happening in your life.  

Life can be beautiful, if you make your eyes to see only beauty of life everywhere even in darkness you can find this beauty.

Life can be easy, if you yourself don’t make it complicated.

Be yourself, world is full of negativity and positivity , try to avoid negative ones. Then see the magic and miracles happening in your life!

 

 

7 ways to get rid of anger Forever

With the name of Allah, Who is most Gracious and most Merciful.

7 ways to get rid of anger Forever

Imagine your personality is it looks like an angry bird or it’s like a calm, cool and peaceful person?

Anger; destructive emotion that kills your talents and productive skills. It harms you in every field of life. Makes you sick in relationships, finance etc. You are not able to make any fruitful decision at that time. At an all it is a killer of yourself, your life and your virtues and your personality over all. Your mental, physical and spiritual health suffers from it a lot.

Whatever a reason behind your anger, it may be family issues, your childhood etc. but I reality no one wants to live with an anger everyone wants to get rid of it. Here are few tips to remove anger from your life forever.

  1. Be aware of your anger:

Become sensible to your feelings of anger. Differentiate your emotions when you are responding normally or angry in certain type of situations. It is awareness moment when you become aware of your anger. Now you know very well of responsible factors of your anger. And become conscious of your anger triggers.

  1. Realize the root cause of anger:

Now you know what make you angry in certain type of situation? Remember any recent situation which made you to lose your temper. Write down everything about that situation. Now go through it and identify the main root cause of anger. Keeping in mind the points that what make you angry at that time; e.g. isn’t it somebody’s words, attitude or surrounding environment (e.g. noise) etc. Know why you become angry? Why you lost your temper? Why you react aggressively? What makes you to behave like that?

Getting answer of these questions from yourself and the situation make you to be aware of the source of anger.

  1. Examine your inner self.

You realize the root cause of your anger now examine yourself internally. Remind yourself anger is an internal emotion that effects internally and externally both. So correct yourself from internal first. Examine your points of adhere beliefs. Take notice of your issues. See the both sides of coin.

For example seeing a somebody always make you to lose your temper. What you have to do is to examine what issue you have with him/her? What type of things in him you dislike? So see the things which can make him likeable to you and to all others. When you notice all things then schedule a time and sit with him and resolve your issue. Realize that it is not something in him which you dislike but it is inside yourself which make you to react with him rudely. So you have to work yourself on first. That’s why old saying suits you that what you think is what you are.

  1. Move away from anger:

Yes it is possible to move away from anger. Imagine that you are stuck in traffic for an hour due to some reasons suddenly and you have a meeting, you come out early but still traffic makes an issue for you to not reach on time. And it makes you to lose temper and become angry with traffic.

So what you should do? First just make yourself calm down. Relax. Notice all the vehicles surrounding you. People inside them also want to reach at their destinations on time. So you are not the only one in this ocean of traffic.

So why you become angry? Why not to concentrate on other positive things? Observing the surroundings. Listening a motivational audio book or again revising your meeting points and informing others that you are stuck in traffic suddenly.

All these things make you to move away from anger and don’t make you to waste your energy, which you can utilize, somewhere.Thinking about alternatives make you to move away from anger.

  1. Don’t hurt yourself with anger, Try to forgive yourself:

Have you ever get anger on yourself? Yes we all have that point come in our life many times. When you are feeling helplessness, when you can’t change things, when you can’t change others, when you have not performed with excellence, when you not do something in a way that you want to do. All these situations are blaming situations which make you to lose your temper on yourself. You blame for everything to yourself as a “failure”, as a “loser”. Why are you hurting yourself because of others?

Stop blaming yourself. Keep in your mind that only you are not responsible for some bad situation, there may be other factors too. So why hurt yourself. Get the lesson and then prepare yourself for every situation. Promise yourself next time you can perform better, again fail don’t get disappointed, don’t lose  temper on yourself just keep trying because every time you learn something new even from worst. Forgive yourself this time too.

  1. Rate yourself on anger index:

On which state of anger you are rate yourself.

State 5: Rage- You totally lost yourself. And do not behave normally, every work you speak and everything you do in this situation is not as you say and do normally. You are out of control.

State 4: Infuriated- You not lost it totally but feel yourself mad. A state where you can still handle the situation and control yourself.

State 3: Anger- Now you are in real anger. Physical symptoms of anger start arousing at that time i.e. mind warm up, heat beat increases etc.

State 2: Frustration- You are in between negligible aggravation and real anger.

State 1: Irk- When anger begins but is suppressible.

State 0: Anger less- Calm, cool, peaceful and quiet. No anger lies inside you.

What level you are at on? Now deal it accordingly.

  1. Help others with their anger:

When someone is angry on you or when you are living with angry ones. Try to help them also to get rid of anger. Don’t deal them with anger too. Realize that there are certain types of situations, associated feelings, beliefs etc. Which make them to lose their temper too.

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47 quotes that inspire and motivate you to take an action

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There are millions of quotes we find everywhere quoted.But very few of them inspire us really and motivate us.Reading those quotes brings energy into us to act.

Here are 47 quotes that inspire and motivate you to take an action:

  1. You will get all that you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.  (Zig Ziglar)
  2. We do the best we can with what we have and when we know better, we do better. (Maya Angelou)
  3. Nothing ever gets easier. You just get stronger. (Unknown)
  4. You must be the change you wish to see in this world. (Gandhi)
  5. Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know. (Pema Chödrön)
  6. You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks. (Winston Churchill)
  7. It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness. (Chinese Proverb)
  8. It matters not what someone is born but what they grow to be. (J.K. Rowling)
  9. The lust for comfort kills the passions of the soul. (Khalil Gibran)
  10. It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are. (E.E. Cummings)
  11. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.Even the smallest person can change the course of the future. (J.R.R. Tolkien)
  12. We cannot start over but we can begin now and make a new ending. (Zig Ziglar)
  13. Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grow flowers, not thunder. (Rumi)
  14. The entrance door to the sanctuary is inside you. (Rumi)
  15. When you’re happy, don’t promise. When you’re angry, don’t answer. When you’re upset, don’t decide. (Persian proverb)
  16. I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it. ( Picasso)
  17. The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places. (Ernest Hemingway)
  18. If we leave our smells behind when we leave a room, surely something of our soul must remain when we leave this life. (George R.R. Martin)
  19. Keep your face always toward the sunshine, and shadows will fall behind you. (Walt Whitman)
  20. In every end, there is also a beginning. (Libba Bray)
  21. Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear. (George Addair)
  22. If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. (Jim Rohn)
  23. When one door closes, another opens but there’s often a long hallway in between. (Ric Jarow)
  24. Talent is God-given, be humble. Fame is man-given, be grateful. Conceit is self-given, be careful. (Oprah)
  25. Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher. (Oprah)
  26. Better that the whole world should turn against you… than you should consent to turn against what is true within you. (Guy Finley)
  27. If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. (Peace Pilgrim)
  28. Talent is cheaper than table salt. What separates the talented individual from the successful one is a lot of hard work. (Stephen King)
  29. Be strong when you are weak, brave when you are scared and humble when you are victorious. (Unknown)
  30. It always seems impossible until it’s done. (Nelson Mandela)
  31. You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. (Louise L. Hay)
  32. If I want to be accepted as I am, then I need to be willing to accept others as they are. (Louise L. Hay)
  33. The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once. (Albert Einstein)
  34. People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals – that is, goals that do not inspire them. (Tony Robbins)
  35. Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. (Benjamin Franklin)
  36. It is never too late to be what you might have been. (George Eliot)
  37. Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you. (George R.R. Martin)
  38. Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. (Theodore Roosevelt)
  39. Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do. (Byron Katie)
  40. Heaven on Earth is a choice you must make, not a place you must find. (Wayne W. Dyer)
  41. When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. (Helen Keller)
  42. Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got. (Robert Brault)
  43. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking that you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason to not follow your heart. (Steve Jobs)
  44. Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. (George Bernard Shaw)
  45. Everything you can imagine is real. (Pablo Picasso)
  46. How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. (Anne Frank)
  47. The two most important days of your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why. (Mark Twain)

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7 steps to complete big tasks

7 steps to complete big tasks

We get distracted and exhausted easily  while working on big tasks.If a project takes a lot of time to complete we get tired to work on that continuously.We become  energy less  while doing that and focus less on the work because it looks like a huge rock to hit that and seems more energy and time consuming.

It is always suggested that divide the big tasks into smaller ones to work on them easily and quickly.Breaking down tasks into parts can avoid distractions and your brain focus more on completing the task without getting exhausted and neglecting  other activities.

You can do it in these 7 steps:

  1. Think about the task and important parts of task.
  2. Divide the task into its component parts.
  3. Prioritize the component parts, which are most important one for the project.
  4. Evaluate effort require for completing each part of the task.
  5. Create a timeline to complete the each part.
  6. Start doing work on the component parts in order to complete the big project.
  7. Overview all of your work for the big project.

This Strategy is also applicable while working on your goals.

What is the strategy you adopt to complete your big tasks? Share with us.

The 3 types of terror defined by Stephen King

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Stephen King explain terror in three ways that are;

1. The Gross-out: the sight of a severed head tumbling down a flight of stairs, it’s when the lights go out and something green and slimy splatters against your arm.

2. The Horror: the unnatural, spiders the size of bears, the dead waking up and walking around, it’s when the lights go out and something with claws grabs you by the arm.

3. And the last and worse one: Terror, when you come home and notice everything you own had been taken away and replaced by an exact substitute. It’s when the lights go out and you feel something behind you, you hear it, you feel its breath against your ear, but when you turn around, there’s nothing there…
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77 highly effective negative traits to get rid off

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Different words use for describing a trait such as characteristic, feature, unique and distinguishing quality of a person. Somewhere it is described as a unique feature which is blessed by genes. Thus trait gives an image of our personality. It can be a  negative or positive or neutral. And everyone possess it. It is a reflection of our personality that who we are.

Here are few important negative traits from which we have to get rid off in order to be a better person.

  1. Abrasive
  2. Aimless
  3. Argumentative
  4. Agonizing
  5. Amoral
  6. Asocial
  7. Bewildered
  8. Brittle
  9. Callous
  10. Careless
  11. Clumsy
  12. Colorless
  13. Complacent
  14. Childish
  15. Complaintive
  16. Compulsive
  17. Conceited
  18. Cowardly
  19. Crafty
  20. Crass
  21. Critical
  22. Deceitful
  23. Dirty
  24. Dishonest
  25. Disorganized
  26. Disrespectful
  27. Dissonant
  28. Escapist
  29. Envious
  30. Faithless
  31. Extreme
  32. Fanciful
  33. Fawning
  34. Graceless
  35. Greedy
  36. Gullible
  37. Hesitant
  38. Imitative
  39. Impatient
  40. Imprudent
  41. Incurious
  42. Insulting
  43. Inert
  44. Irresponsible
  45. Irritating
  46. Lazy
  47. Mannerless
  48. Mealymouthed
  49. Meddlesome
  50. Negativistic
  51. Narcissistic
  52. One-dimensional
  53. Opportunistic
  54. Oppressed
  55. Over imaginative
  56. Paranoid
  57. Passive
  58. Possessive
  59. Regretful
  60. Ridiculous
  61. Sadistic
  62. Secretive
  63. Selfish
  64. Shortsighted
  65. Suspicious
  66. Thoughtless
  67. Troublesome
  68. Unconvincing
  69. Uncooperative
  70. Undisciplined
  71. Un-creative
  72. Unstable
  73. Unprincipled
  74. Unpolished
  75. Vulnerable
  76. Vindictive
  77. Weak willed

 

 

Review your day

Review your day

Journaling or reviewing your all day activities of the day is a best idea.

Are you a person who reviews on night all day activities? If you are not then you should start to do this, because;

  1. This will tell you about all your mistakes which you have done on day but didn’t realize while doing them.
  2. You then know more about your expended time and energy.
  3. It will tell you that have you completed to-do-list tasks today.
  4. You will get acknowledge yourself about the bad’s and good ones of the day.
  5. You will realize in the end that how you have spent your day and how you can do more to spend your everyday fruitfully.
  6. You will know about the lessons learnt in the day.
  7. You will judge about your communication level that how you have interacted and communicated with others?
  8. You will learn about your life phase where improvement is needed, by recognizing your weak and lacking point of the day.
  9. You will realize your strengths, weaknesses, your struggles in the day and learn that how can you do the best? How can you overcome your weaknesses? Which phase  needs improvement?
  10. What is the new thing that you have learnt today? And how well you have learnt that one? And how you can do more of that?
  11. You can also overview or count the blessings of the day bestowed to you by Allah in a day.
  12. It will also help you in knowing your memorizing ability, in a way that what are the things of the day that you can recall.

Best way to review your day is to VISUALIZE YOUR ALL DAY ACTIVITIES IN 30 sec to 1 min from the point of awakening to the time when you are on bed for sleeping. Review all activities in order and do not jump from sequence. Doesn’t it look like a meditation or a movie running in front of your eyes?

What Benjamin Franklin asked himself every night is; what good have I done today?

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Is your Aim matches your Wants?

Is your Aim matches your Wants?

Aiming big, high, more, less, little doesnot matter until you don’t know what you want to do with yourself?with your life?

It is like a journey on a road without knowing where your destiny lies?

We often listen that aiming big, achieving high.  Suppose you aimed high and achieved big. Is it all that you really want to get from your life? Is it satisfying for you? Or there is a hole inside you remaining unfulfilled despite of achieving your aim?

If yes. Then it happens because you are aiming and achieving what you don’t want from your heart to get.

Reality  is that what we want is what we aim. But not always.

Suppose you aim to achieve certain X degree in order to get X job. So you got a degree and after that you got a job too matching your degree. But  after a certain time you realize that you are not happy with your job, with your lifestyle. It is because you had previously an aim that doesnot matches what you really want.

Mainly because for setting an aim of your life you haven’t listened voice of your heart. You haven’t discover what you really want to get from your life. You are unhappy because whatever you have achieved is not what you want.

So before aiming and achieving high, you should have all to do is to be to get awareness about your wants,  discover them, learn about them, realize them and then finally take an action to move forward in land of aiming big and achieving high. Every step of which  you enjoy and whose results gives you more pleasure and satisfaction.

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17 Ways to Do what you love to do

17 Ways to Do what you love to do

Do what you love or love what you are doing is important for achieving success and satisfaction.

If you are a doctor or teacher  and you love your professional work to teach or to deal with patients, then you are at high rate of satisfaction and more productive towards your work.And on the other side if you are in a profession that don’t satisfies you  and not make you to enjoy your work, then you are living a boring and dull life.

People who are professionalists, but not happy with their work and every time complaining  and blaming about their profession, can not live happy. If you are lying under same category of people then you can follow some tips to do what you love to do

  1. You can become more active and productive if you do what you are passionate about doing.
  2. In order to know your passion & interests, take a round trip of your skills and capabilities by judging yourself.
  3. Remind yourself the activities of your childhood, which fascinates you and that you liked a lot to do and got good results. In this way you can know about your interests well.
  4. Make a list of all of your interests and hobbies and categorize them according to your potential.
  5. Brainstorm the ideas and ways  and make a plan what, how, and when you do.
  6. Try to be realistic in doing what you want to do.
  7. Get more knowledge, information or resources about your interest. Meet people who have similar interests like you.
  8. Overcome your all type of  fears.  Stop believing that adopting your interest or hobby  as a profession is risky and not a good deal. With this state of believe and fear you never be able to get state of happiness and success.
  9. Explore the opportunities for your interest and then finally go for it.For example if you love to travel around a world then you should need to explore opportunities for it and ways for travelling profitably i.e. enjoy travelling+earning money through it.
  10. Decide what are those things that you are most capable to do.
  11. Know your potential skills and find the ways through which you can polish them more.
  12. Set up your mind for loss and gain, both. And pre-evaluate solutions for the loss and the problems that you might face.
  13. Try to add sense of creativity, what you are being doing.
  14. Share with your friends, family or well wishers about your passions and get feedback, ideas  and advice from them. These people can guide and help you in doing what you love to do.
  15. Find a mentor and get some inspiration and motivation from them.
  16. Don’t wait for a specific moment. Make a  firm decision and act accordingly.
  17. Plant grows slowly, so try to be patient.

When you do what you love to d, then you feel yourself more energized because your potential to give productive output increases. So its better to spend your energy on tasks which you are passionate about to accomplish.

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