5 Common indicators of Toxic Relationships

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Relationship become toxic when your partner is damaging and harming you emotionally and become extremely toxic when he/she is harming you physically. Sometimes it shows your partner’s dysfunctional behavior.

There are many signs of toxic relationship, but below are 5 common signs of toxic relationships.

  1. Lack of emotional support

Emotional support comes  in various ways. Your tough times makes you to be easy with emotional support from your partner but in toxic relationship you do not expect it from your significant other. Your partner if don’t bother to know your emotions or shows his to you.

2. Lack of  respect

Your partner does not respects you and your opinions. He/she may impose his/her decisions on you whether you agree or not. He may not bother to listen you often on various matters and does not value your experiences, ideas and  point of view. One’s point of view may differ from other but respecting others point of view  and giving him/her space is best thing.

3.  Lack of safety

Feeling of being safe with your partner is important for healthy relationship.To enjoy a healthy and durable connection mature love, you should have a feeling of being safe with other. You feel safe when insecurities in relationship are identified and addressed. Being safe mean you are comfortable with each other. You share your lives matters with one another, may be how bitter or sweet they are.

4.  Lack of interest

Your partner does not shows interest in you or your activities anymore. His/her level of  excitement about you may fell gradually. What you want or expect from your partner or what he/she may want from you is not addressed.

5.  Lack of admiration

Admiration is an essential element of healthy and positive relationship. If your partner does not admires you, it weakens the bond deeply between both of you.

Are you in toxic relationship? What steps you are taking to avoid being yourself toxic in relationship? Share with us.

LIFE in 101 lines of Truth

LIFE in 101 lines of Truth

  1. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.– Dennis P. Kimbro.
  2. Life doesn’t require that we be the best, only that we try our best. –H. Jackson Brown Jr.
  3. Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me. ­­­_ Carol Burnett.

  4. I have found that if you love life, life will love you back.  _ Arthur Rubinstein
  5. You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.― Mae West
  6. Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans. ― Allen Saunders
  7. Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.― George Bernard Shaw

  8. Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.― Albert Einstein
  9. Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn’t stop for anybody. ― Stephen Chbosky,
  10. You cannot find peace by avoiding life. ― Michael Cunningham
  11. Where there is love there is life. ― Mahatma Gandhi
  12. Life is a book and there are a thousand pages I have not yet read.― Cassandra Clare
  13. Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards. ― Søren Kierkegaard
  14. Life’s under no obligation to give us what we expect.― Margaret Mitchell
  15. Life is to be enjoyed, not endured ― Gordon B. Hinckley
  16. This is your life and its ending one moment at a time.― Chuck Palahniuk
  17. Life’s just a bunch of accidents, connected by one perfect end.― Daniel C. Tomas

  18. An apology is the superglue of life! It can repair just about anything!! ― Lynn Johnston
  19. That means life itself is a fairy tale. Like the characters, we all live and love and search for a happily-ever-after. ― Gena Showalter
  20. Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but of playing a poor hand well.― Robert Louis Stevenson
  21. The trouble is if you don’t spend your life yourself, other people spend it for you.― Peter Shaffer
  22. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.― Helen Keller,
  23. It’s funny how you can live somewhere your whole life, but not really see it.― Kami Garcia
  24. It is not the length of life, but the depth.― Ralph Waldo Emerson

  25. Ordinary life is pretty complex stuff. ― Harvey Pekar
  26. Life is to be lived, not controlled; and humanity is won by continuing to play in face of certain defeat.― Ralph Ellison,
  27. Life becomes easier and more beautiful when we can see the good in other people.
    ― Roy T. Bennett
  28. And life is what we make it. Always has been, always will be.― Grandma Moses

  29. The secret of life is honesty and fair dealing. If you can fake that, you’ve got it made.― Groucho Marx
  30. Life moves very fast. It rushes from Heaven to Hell in a matter of seconds.― Paulo Coelho
  31. In life, more than in anything else, it isn’t easy to end up alive.― Roman Payne
  32. Life has become the future. Every moment of your life is lived for the future.― John Green
  33. Death is not the opposite of life, but a part of it. ― Haruki Murakami,
  34. Unexpected intrusions of beauty. This is what life is.― Saul Bellow
  35. Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It’s the transition that’s troublesome.― Isaac Asimov
  36. That is life… to begin again when everything is lost!― J. Cronin
  37. The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.― Oprah Winfrey
  38. Life is about accepting the challenges along the way, choosing to keep moving forward, and savoring the journey.― Roy T. Bennett
  39. Every man’s life ends the same way. It is only the details of how he lived and how he died that distinguish one man from another.― Ernest Hemingway
  40. Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced. – Soren Kierkegaard

  41. There are no classes in life for beginners: right away you are always asked to deal with what is most difficult.― Rainer Maria Rilke
  42. Life is dear to every living thing; the worm that crawls upon the ground will struggle for it.― Solomon Northup
  43. Life’s as kind as you let it be. ― Charles Bukowski,
  44. Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.― Helen Keller
  45. There is a very fine line between loving life and being greedy for it.― Maya Angelou
  46. Life is a comedy to those who think, a tragedy to those who feel.― Jean Racine
  47. There are always loose ends in real life.― Robert Galbraith
  48. Life is a dream from which we all must wake before we can dream again.― Robert Jordan
  49. Human life is but a series of footnotes to a vast obscure unfinished masterpiece.― Vladimir Nabokov
  50. Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass…It’s about learning to dance in the rain.― Vivian Greene

  51. Our life is what our thoughts make it.― Marcus Aurelius
  52. This isn’t life in the fast lane, it’s life in the oncoming traffic.― Terry Pratchett
  53. Art and life are subjective. Not everybody’s gonna dig what I dig, but I reserve the right to dig it.― Whoopi Goldberg
  54. Life is a journey. Time is a river. The door is a jar.― Jim Butcher
  55. Life is not fair get used to used to it.― Bill Gates
  56. A life isn’t measured in hours and minutes. It’s the quality, not the length.― Gabrielle Zevin
  57. Life, unfortunately, doesn’t seem to care what we want.― Richelle Mead
  58. The great object of life is sensation- to feel that we exist, even though in pain.― George Gordon Byron
  59. Life is a tapestry woven by the decisions we make.― Sherrilyn Kenyon
  60. In life, there are no mistakes, only lessons.― Vic Johnson

  61. Life is a compromise of what your ego wants to do, what experience tells you to do, and what your nerves let you do.― Walter Bagehot
  62. Life isn’t worth living, unless it is lived for someone else.― Albert Einstein
  63. If you think something is missing in your life, it is probably YOU.― Robert Holden
  64. The aim of life is self-development. To realize one’s nature perfectly – that is what each of us is here for.― Oscar Wilde
  65. You can’t regret the life you didn’t lead.― Junot Díaz
  66. The only certainty life contains is death.― Patricia Briggs
  67. Losing your life is not the worst thing that can happen. The worst thing is to lose your reason for living.― Jo Nesbø

  68. Life would be unbearably dull if we had answers to all our questions.― Jim Butcher

  69. Real life is messy, inconsistent, and it’s seldom when anything ever really gets resolved. It’s taken me a long time to realize that.― Alan Moore
  70. Life, although it may only be an accumulation of anguish, is dear to me, and I will defend it.― Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley
  71. Life doesn’t require ideals. It requires standards of action.― Haruki Murakami,

  72. After all, what’s a life, anyway? We’re born, we live a little while, we die.― B. White
  73. Everything changes in my life, and the world stays the same.― Cassandra Clare
  74. Life is ours to be spent, not to be saved.― H. Lawrence
  75. Life is like a play: it’s not the length, but the excellence of the acting that matters. ― Seneca
  76. Life is a blank canvas, and you need to throw all the paint on it you can.― Danny Kaye
  77. Life is not like water. Things in life don’t necessarily flow over the shortest possible route.― Haruki Murakami
  78. Life is problems. Living is solving problems.― Raymond E. Feist

  79. The tragedy of life is what dies inside a man while he lives.― Albert Einstein
  80. Life is not complex. We are complex. Life is simple, and the simple thing is the right thing.― Oscar Wilde

  81. Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it.― Irving Berlin

  82. Before I can tell my life what I want to do with it, I must listen to my life telling me who I am.― Parker J. Palmer
  83. You know, life fractures us all into little pieces. It harms us, but it’s how we glue those fractures back together that make us stronger.― Carrie Jones
  84. Life is so constructed, that the event does not, cannot, will not, match the expectation.― Charlotte Brontë
  85. While there’s life, there’s hope.― Marcus Tullius Cicero
  86. Life is like an onion; you peel it off one layer at a time, and sometimes you weep.― Carl Sandburg
  87. Anything can happen in life, especially nothing.― Michel Houellebecq
  88. The irony of life is that those who wear masks often tell us more truths than those with open faces. ― Marie Lu
  89. I believe when life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade…and try to find someone whose life has given them vodka, and have a party.― Ron White
  90. Life—the way it really is—is a battle not between good and bad, but between bad and worse.― Joseph Brodsky
  91. Life’ wrote a friend of mine, ‘is a public performance on the violin, in which you must learn the instrument as you go along.― M. Forster
  92. The story of life is quicker than the wink of an eye, the story of love is hello and goodbye…until we meet again.― Jimi Hendrix
  93. If you have a strong purpose in life, you don’t have to be pushed. Your passion will drive you there.― Roy T. Bennett
  94. All people know the same truth. Our lives consist of how we choose to distort it.― Woody Allen
  95. Life isn’t fair, it’s just fairer than death, that’s all.― William Goldman
  96. Life is an experiment in which you may fail or succeed. Explore more, expect least.― Santosh Kalwar
  97. Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. ― Anaïs Nin
  98. The power to change your life lies in the simplest of steps.― Steve Maraboli
  99. In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on. ― Robert Frost

  100. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.-Ralph Waldo Emerson
  101. The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it’s all that matters. ― Audrey Hepburn

7 ways to get rid of anger Forever

With the name of Allah, Who is most Gracious and most Merciful.

7 ways to get rid of anger Forever

Imagine your personality is it looks like an angry bird or it’s like a calm, cool and peaceful person?

Anger; destructive emotion that kills your talents and productive skills. It harms you in every field of life. Makes you sick in relationships, finance etc. You are not able to make any fruitful decision at that time. At an all it is a killer of yourself, your life and your virtues and your personality over all. Your mental, physical and spiritual health suffers from it a lot.

Whatever a reason behind your anger, it may be family issues, your childhood etc. but I reality no one wants to live with an anger everyone wants to get rid of it. Here are few tips to remove anger from your life forever.

  1. Be aware of your anger:

Become sensible to your feelings of anger. Differentiate your emotions when you are responding normally or angry in certain type of situations. It is awareness moment when you become aware of your anger. Now you know very well of responsible factors of your anger. And become conscious of your anger triggers.

  1. Realize the root cause of anger:

Now you know what make you angry in certain type of situation? Remember any recent situation which made you to lose your temper. Write down everything about that situation. Now go through it and identify the main root cause of anger. Keeping in mind the points that what make you angry at that time; e.g. isn’t it somebody’s words, attitude or surrounding environment (e.g. noise) etc. Know why you become angry? Why you lost your temper? Why you react aggressively? What makes you to behave like that?

Getting answer of these questions from yourself and the situation make you to be aware of the source of anger.

  1. Examine your inner self.

You realize the root cause of your anger now examine yourself internally. Remind yourself anger is an internal emotion that effects internally and externally both. So correct yourself from internal first. Examine your points of adhere beliefs. Take notice of your issues. See the both sides of coin.

For example seeing a somebody always make you to lose your temper. What you have to do is to examine what issue you have with him/her? What type of things in him you dislike? So see the things which can make him likeable to you and to all others. When you notice all things then schedule a time and sit with him and resolve your issue. Realize that it is not something in him which you dislike but it is inside yourself which make you to react with him rudely. So you have to work yourself on first. That’s why old saying suits you that what you think is what you are.

  1. Move away from anger:

Yes it is possible to move away from anger. Imagine that you are stuck in traffic for an hour due to some reasons suddenly and you have a meeting, you come out early but still traffic makes an issue for you to not reach on time. And it makes you to lose temper and become angry with traffic.

So what you should do? First just make yourself calm down. Relax. Notice all the vehicles surrounding you. People inside them also want to reach at their destinations on time. So you are not the only one in this ocean of traffic.

So why you become angry? Why not to concentrate on other positive things? Observing the surroundings. Listening a motivational audio book or again revising your meeting points and informing others that you are stuck in traffic suddenly.

All these things make you to move away from anger and don’t make you to waste your energy, which you can utilize, somewhere.Thinking about alternatives make you to move away from anger.

  1. Don’t hurt yourself with anger, Try to forgive yourself:

Have you ever get anger on yourself? Yes we all have that point come in our life many times. When you are feeling helplessness, when you can’t change things, when you can’t change others, when you have not performed with excellence, when you not do something in a way that you want to do. All these situations are blaming situations which make you to lose your temper on yourself. You blame for everything to yourself as a “failure”, as a “loser”. Why are you hurting yourself because of others?

Stop blaming yourself. Keep in your mind that only you are not responsible for some bad situation, there may be other factors too. So why hurt yourself. Get the lesson and then prepare yourself for every situation. Promise yourself next time you can perform better, again fail don’t get disappointed, don’t lose  temper on yourself just keep trying because every time you learn something new even from worst. Forgive yourself this time too.

  1. Rate yourself on anger index:

On which state of anger you are rate yourself.

State 5: Rage- You totally lost yourself. And do not behave normally, every work you speak and everything you do in this situation is not as you say and do normally. You are out of control.

State 4: Infuriated- You not lost it totally but feel yourself mad. A state where you can still handle the situation and control yourself.

State 3: Anger- Now you are in real anger. Physical symptoms of anger start arousing at that time i.e. mind warm up, heat beat increases etc.

State 2: Frustration- You are in between negligible aggravation and real anger.

State 1: Irk- When anger begins but is suppressible.

State 0: Anger less- Calm, cool, peaceful and quiet. No anger lies inside you.

What level you are at on? Now deal it accordingly.

  1. Help others with their anger:

When someone is angry on you or when you are living with angry ones. Try to help them also to get rid of anger. Don’t deal them with anger too. Realize that there are certain types of situations, associated feelings, beliefs etc. Which make them to lose their temper too.

Tell us how you overcome your anger?

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47 quotes that inspire and motivate you to take an action

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There are millions of quotes we find everywhere quoted.But very few of them inspire us really and motivate us.Reading those quotes brings energy into us to act.

Here are 47 quotes that inspire and motivate you to take an action:

  1. You will get all that you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.  (Zig Ziglar)
  2. We do the best we can with what we have and when we know better, we do better. (Maya Angelou)
  3. Nothing ever gets easier. You just get stronger. (Unknown)
  4. You must be the change you wish to see in this world. (Gandhi)
  5. Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know. (Pema Chödrön)
  6. You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks. (Winston Churchill)
  7. It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness. (Chinese Proverb)
  8. It matters not what someone is born but what they grow to be. (J.K. Rowling)
  9. The lust for comfort kills the passions of the soul. (Khalil Gibran)
  10. It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are. (E.E. Cummings)
  11. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.Even the smallest person can change the course of the future. (J.R.R. Tolkien)
  12. We cannot start over but we can begin now and make a new ending. (Zig Ziglar)
  13. Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grow flowers, not thunder. (Rumi)
  14. The entrance door to the sanctuary is inside you. (Rumi)
  15. When you’re happy, don’t promise. When you’re angry, don’t answer. When you’re upset, don’t decide. (Persian proverb)
  16. I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it. ( Picasso)
  17. The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places. (Ernest Hemingway)
  18. If we leave our smells behind when we leave a room, surely something of our soul must remain when we leave this life. (George R.R. Martin)
  19. Keep your face always toward the sunshine, and shadows will fall behind you. (Walt Whitman)
  20. In every end, there is also a beginning. (Libba Bray)
  21. Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear. (George Addair)
  22. If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. (Jim Rohn)
  23. When one door closes, another opens but there’s often a long hallway in between. (Ric Jarow)
  24. Talent is God-given, be humble. Fame is man-given, be grateful. Conceit is self-given, be careful. (Oprah)
  25. Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher. (Oprah)
  26. Better that the whole world should turn against you… than you should consent to turn against what is true within you. (Guy Finley)
  27. If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. (Peace Pilgrim)
  28. Talent is cheaper than table salt. What separates the talented individual from the successful one is a lot of hard work. (Stephen King)
  29. Be strong when you are weak, brave when you are scared and humble when you are victorious. (Unknown)
  30. It always seems impossible until it’s done. (Nelson Mandela)
  31. You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. (Louise L. Hay)
  32. If I want to be accepted as I am, then I need to be willing to accept others as they are. (Louise L. Hay)
  33. The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once. (Albert Einstein)
  34. People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals – that is, goals that do not inspire them. (Tony Robbins)
  35. Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment. (Benjamin Franklin)
  36. It is never too late to be what you might have been. (George Eliot)
  37. Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you. (George R.R. Martin)
  38. Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. (Theodore Roosevelt)
  39. Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do. (Byron Katie)
  40. Heaven on Earth is a choice you must make, not a place you must find. (Wayne W. Dyer)
  41. When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. (Helen Keller)
  42. Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got. (Robert Brault)
  43. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking that you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason to not follow your heart. (Steve Jobs)
  44. Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. (George Bernard Shaw)
  45. Everything you can imagine is real. (Pablo Picasso)
  46. How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. (Anne Frank)
  47. The two most important days of your life are the day you were born and the day you find out why. (Mark Twain)

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With every hardship there is an ease

 

With every hardship there is an ease

We see a lot of people in our surrounding unhappy. They are not happy with their job, partner, home, and with their life too. In their sadness they forget about other joys of life.

We forget that with every hardship there is an ease (AL QURAN).Only we have to find this ease from hardship in our life but we don’t do this generally and go into depression. There are so many pleasant things and moments to look for in our life but stripe of sadness is so strong on our eyes that we can’t see these joys.

When you feel sad than start just thinking for things that are joyous for you that can make you to forget about sadness. For example you are sad about your body, and then start thinking about other blessings given to you by ALLAH ALMIGHTY. Think you have eyes to see, ear to hear, hands to work, legs and feet to walk and say thanks to ALLAH ALMIGHTY for all this. When you are in gratitude moment sadness doesn’t tries to harm you. Just appreciate nature for all the blessings bestowed on you.

Remember there is a shining morning of every dark night. You just have to wait with patience for that morning it comes on its own time. And it doesn’t come earlier not later but only on its pre-written time. It doesn’t mean that you sit only and just wait. But along wait don’t stop doing efforts for bringing sunshine of your life.

Not every time there are good things been happening. But it doesn’t mean that good is not present in your life. It is present you just have to see good on other side of bad thing. Because coin is not same from both side. There is good for some reason, bad for another some reason. But what that reason is? Really look for that.

People are happy because they choose to be happy. They look positively even from negative. And learn lessons from negativities. Their expectations are always for good thing they don’t expect worst, whether it will happen or not. They are feeding their brain with all the positivity’s and yes success comes to those no doubt sooner or later, but it is sure.

Just remember;

“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness If you are attentive, you will see it.”   Thich Nhat Hahn

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